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With social evils like “sati” abolished, women got their right to life. But that was just one aspect. We still have a long way to go. Can you notice how the genuine moral support of the government today has brought many maladies like triple talaq, rape etc to a point of revolt, discussion and solution? Women who lived in fear are beginning to come out and raise their voices against the injustices meted out to them. All because finally, the right issues are being aired and laws are being passed to arrest the further growth of the “jungle raj”.

The light coming in to the world of men is being blocked desperately by the dark souls of humans but this time, they may not succeed in spreading further darkness. I am hopeful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Comparison


An excerpt from Kangana Ranaut’s interview : ” I think somewhere, women don’t have acceptance for themselves. Women don’t support women, and this matter should be brought to light ( through films). Though they share a bond, I still feel that we don’t support each other the way we should. Like, at the smallest of things, we see girls make fun of girls themselves, our nature and how we look at each other as the inferior sex. So, somewhere, this needs to be deactivated.”

I was mulling over this comment and finding some truth alright. Apart from this being a cut throat world, women have been losing out due to personality issues. Sure, there are many women’s organizations and travel groups but…..

They call it a man’s world because they unite for a cause and their solidarity does often overtake that of women. They also tend to move on faster than women without focusing too much on petty issues. Traditionally, women were not insecure. In the Vedic age, women were strong and wise and lived shoulder to shoulder with the men. But later in history, they came to be called a weaker lot, dependent on the male. More so, after the moghul invasion. And today, when women are coming out of their shell, they will probably have to go through a period of transition till they start supporting each other for a greater cause of connectivity and look for a connection in each other rather than comparison.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Analysis


All these years of my practice have taught me that the one single enemy within is insecurity. It is like the nucleus of an amoeba. Everything undesirable emerges from it.

I can be insecure about innumerable things. Starting at birth, with my environment. Maybe, I was not a wanted child. The family never accepted me. Maybe, I grew up in isolation…a neglected child. Could be my family was financially not sound and I had to pinch pennies….and circumstances like this….

People seldom realize what has transpired in the lives of individuals they meet or know, and how and why they have become the way they are today…

Character and personality are not traits only from one life. We have multiple personalities living within us. Kids who display certain qualities don’t do it coincidentally. There is always a good reason.

So, insecurities build up from childhood, not only because of incidents that happen in this life but also those from other lives that we are here to neutralize.

An analysis of these insecurities will bring up effects like anger, complexes, diffidence, lack of self worth, envy , jealousy etc.

In fact, insecurities are directly proportionate to the self image. Feeling good and worthwhile is important to survival. And self image is generally based on the illusory self and therefore, cannot sustain itself, as all illusions cannot and do not.

So, try the antidote to insecurity. Strip away the surface layers of reactions one by one. Realize the power of love as being able to achieve miracles and discard anything that your soul within revolts at. Listen to the voice of the soul from within and understand what the Universe tells you about your life and how to live it. Gradually, you will succeed in dropping all insecurity, the biggest being that of the inevitability of death.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Silence! A potent word! How many types of silences do we know of?

I am reading a very informative book: “Silence” by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk. Such books increase our awareness manifold.

We don’t know how to face silence. When we are not doing anything, we try to engage our mind in other activities. Anything to get away from silence! We are consumed….

We consume food to avoid emptiness. We let our senses consume us. Feelings! Intense ones! Hatred. Anger. Even love consumes us.

Our desires, choices consume us. Passion consumes us.

And our conscience can consume us. Guilt, repentance for our actions, speech, words.

All these are enemies of silence, of silence that should ideally pervade all these and destroy them.

So, meditate, meditate and meditate. Deep breathe, deep breathe, deep breathe. Our breath is more powerful than we know.

Breath cleanses negative feelings and negative karma apart from bad habits and addictions. Meditation helps to achieve and maintain silence. And one day, this silence becomes golden. This is a state of joy.

But we need to start our journey to get there.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Challenges


I always say expectations, like comparisons, can turn out to be odious. But my experience has shown that presumptions are a shade worse because they anticipate an experience that may or may not happen.

So, what happens here? Suppose there is something I need to do. That action will definitely have a consequence like all actions do. But, because I might be having several mindsets or belief systems, I start to imagine the consequences of that act before the act itself is done. Actually, the consequence may have played out very differently in reality. But I don’t give it a chance. I want just the desired result of that act.

This is a typical case of wanting to control your environment. And playing out the consequences in your mind gives you some comfort, perhaps, that you will manage to achieve somewhat the desired result. A probability only. Not a certainty.

So many times, I have heard the line “if I do this that will happen.” “And happen for sure” is added. An over-the-top reaction of this kind may demonstrate an innate fear. Fear of something being taken away from you or letting things go from your hands into an unknown and non confirmative space which you are uncomfortable with. . People who steer actions with careful rigidity might be prone to such thought processes.

Actually, these are blocks which prevent expansive experiences. Like, I take a flight everywhere and hence, miss out on the beautiful countryside which I would have experienced had I motored up to my destination. But because I don’t know the roads and might have an accident, it is safe to take a flight.

So, I am already anticipating an accident that may or may not happen. Presumption that an aircraft is safer!! I have no way of knowing it IS safe, before I fly out. A presumption again!

Friends, we really miss out on so much of life by controlling our environment. And if we have family around us, we end up doing the same to them as well. I understand that everyone wants to be safe and away from harm. But to close yourself on the basis of presumptions is also not a healthy trait or practice.

Later, as adults, you see people who grow up in such conditions shrinking their minds to respond more rigidly than freely. Challenges are very essential for out -of -the – box thinking and living.

So, try new environments even for your children. Challenge them and observe their responses. Life is the biggest teacher. If you grow, the environment and people around you also grow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was listening to an interview on criticism and being a critic. It is amazing that we never think of it as energy exchange. But it is.

When you criticize someone, you cause pain. But in doing so, you also go through pain. In fact, if you criticize with negative energy, it causes you more harm because the energy is deliberately emitted. The receiver can deal with this kind of energy in three ways.

  1. Either take it in, absorb and feel the pain.
  2. See that energy coming at you and return it. Someone criticizes you. You criticize them back. But the negative vibrations stay.
  3. Transform that energy. Understand that the person has negative vibrations and that you need not harm yourself by taking it in. This way, with understanding, you have transformed the negative energy.

I don’t think there can be any contest in which one a clear intellect would choose. But is it that simple? It can be, though.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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