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Altitude


 

Who really can say they got everything in life? Only those who actually were grateful for everything they received with an attitude that it was a bonus. A grace. Then there weren’t any compulsive desires as such.

We humans tend to get greedy…we forget that whatever we deserve we do get. No one takes that away and it does not get deflected either. But we evidently look for other, “greener” pastures. More and more and more….better and better and better…..

If a car, for example, is a comfort so we don’t have to walk or take a public transport, does it matter what brand the car is or that at least there IS a car ? Hmm … the difference in satiation levels !!

The difference in being a human being and being human…

Attitude definitely determines altitude. Depends on what KIND of altitude one is looking for!!

Surekha Kothari

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I was listening to an interview on criticism and being a critic. It is amazing that we never think of it as energy exchange. But it is.

When you criticize someone, you cause pain. But in doing so, you also go through pain. In fact, if you criticize with negative energy, it causes you more harm because the energy is deliberately emitted. The receiver can deal with this kind of energy in three ways.

  1. Either take it in, absorb and feel the pain.
  2. See that energy coming at you and return it. Someone criticizes you. You criticize them back. But the negative vibrations stay.
  3. Transform that energy. Understand that the person has negative vibrations and that you need not harm yourself by taking it in. This way, with understanding, you have transformed the negative energy.

I don’t think there can be any contest in which one a clear intellect would choose. But is it that simple? It can be, though.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sense of humor


Sense of humor! Sigh! If common sense is uncommon, a sense of humor is, too. You know, if you want to remove your blocks within yourself, learn to laugh at yourself about the very things that hurt and angered you earlier.

Today, we are so careful about monitoring our humor. Say the right things. Smile only so much. Facial expressions should be just correct. Oops! How exhausting!

Life is fun! Laugh. Fall and get up to run with exhilaration, with the wind blowing your hair away…feel the raindrops on your cheeks…

…and if people laugh at you, join them and make them laugh more! Be a free spirit…after all, what do you care as long as you are in tune with yourself? Neither our smile nor our happiness should be a bi product of someone else’s perceptions. Because I am because I am, not because you think I am.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Patience


Karma! The ideal balance of performing karma is that on one hand, have limitless patience and on the other, don’t perform your karma with an eye towards the results. That is called “Samatva” of karma.

Secondly, if you accept the karma as a doer, the positivity or negativity also becomes yours. For example, a fisherman kills fish to sell and feed his family. It is his work and he never dwells on the ethics of it. Therefore, his karma is pure. He even dances and sings when he has had a good catch because there is no thought of any guilt of killing.

Take another example. You say something innocently to a friend but that causes some hurt in the friend. You are unaware until they tell you that you shouldn’t have said what you did because it was hurtful. And you now begin to feel guilty and acknowledge that you are wrong. This then immediately becomes your karma, because you accepted it as wrong.

So, karma is completely intention based. Lord Krishna, therefore, asked humans to surrender all karma to him. If” I “am not a doer (karta), where is the karma?


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Confidence


People who are actually reserved or unsure, maybe quiet or even shy tend to get misunderstood as egoistic or arrogant. It is our limitation of the mind that brands them so. Isn’t it? Being unable to make them open up to us can also be our weakness.

Life takes different turns for different people and not all of them can have a “don’t care” attitude. Some may become introverted, too.

So, next time we see withdrawn people, we should seek them out and try and boost their confidence with our kindness rather than judge them wrongly.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Quality of emotion


People say it is good to take people and things at face value ….hmm…really? But what is the end result of taking such an attitude? Evidently, something like taking everything with a pinch of salt! So, that makes for a lot of salt in the system! And salt retains water in the body. Water, you know, is a symbol of emotions. Which means, if you are taking that attitude, you are doing it superficially and suppressing a lot of emotion in the bargain?

Otherwise, how come people who appear to be breezy, nonchalant and least affected are afflicted with serious ailments? Strokes! Heart attacks! Lung diseases! These reflect an inability to breathe in life positively.

Excess emotion can be a big killer. So, it is always better to accept the quality of emotion you are feeling, run through it and cleanse it immediately. We can pretend before others. Can we run away from ourselves?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Trust


Trust is a quality either you have or don’t have. It cannot be a half measure or faked. But it is fragile and has to be reinforced in a lot of cases. It takes a long time to build up and just a moment to break.

Relationships are completely dependent on this one major ingredient. Goodness is the starting point in inspiring trust. Any deviation or oscillation does often end a beautiful relationship.

Human wants lead of a breach of trust, mainly for short term gains. Such a pity, especially when you reap the joy inherent in a relationship of trust. It is really awesome. Of course, there are rules that keep it going.

 The more we trust a person, the more sacred the bond becomes.

Time tested trust transforms into faith and then there is no looking back. Because faith has no opposite. Just like bliss has no opposite.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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