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Belief systems


Phrases like “generally speaking” and “by and large” should be generally avoided. These are such a severe conditioning that anything out of these lists can be pretty hard to take.

From a young age, our minds are indoctrinated with these completely impractical generalities unwritten norms which don’t work for everyone. There is no “one size fits all” in life. And we have and continue to see this. Writing verse and facing life are two different things. Idealism and reality don’t even come close sometimes. And yet, our belief systems, even our pattern of loving people is often based on a “should” that comes out of a generality.

“I should do this because he is my dad or she is my mom”. Should? Why? Who wrote the rules book? “Should” doesn’t come from the heart. It is inspired by a motive.

…but still, we carry on and end up confusing others and ourselves. Simple answer! Do what comes straight from your heart individually not generally. And if the heart itself is blocked, see a therapist. But don’t teach too many generalities, because they don’t apply in many cases because people are different. Their thought processes ate different. Their responses are different.

Surekha Kothari

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Love consistent


If you are able to return love for indifference, you have made it in life. The most difficult thing to do strangers doesn’t really come into this category. The hurt happens only when you face indifference from those who matter to you.

The important thing to know is that, many a time, the indifference you see may be a put on for concealing hurt. You may not know this if you find an accomplished actor opposite you. But even if you miss that, your policy of giving love consistently should make you peaceful and content from your side.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Peaceful life


Life carries with it a lot of role plays. Many relationships if you would care to have them. So many names and tags! By virtue of birth or a choice of people you want to be around.

But I see many are trapped in those relationships Compulsions, not choices. Somewhere along the way, there was love and then there was none. Things change. People change and move on. New ones enter your life. Each one fulfils you in some way, if you don’t hanker for any special considerations.

Life can be simple if you truly let go. One day, we will all leave this world. So much misery; so much disease; so much agony for what?

Simplify your lives the only answer to a peaceful life. Let life seek you out instead of the other way round.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Mind and happiness


To wash away the impact of karma, one must necessarily dwell on the plausible reasons for the state of the mind. We don’t realize that we have many people inside us, not only our own energies from other lives but our memories of every age we have crossed in this life and many of them needing healing.

Healing is not such a complicated task if we can even just give rational thought to why things are the way they are. “Could be” has many vital possibilities that can relieve us a great deal when memories are relived and re scripted.

That we could have thought, spoken or acted differently is always a later realization. But we need not kill ourselves over such thoughts. Even if we had done things differently, who knows the final outcome?

It is therefore wise to lighten our burdens everyday and treat ourselves with kindness and compassion, because we can give genuine caring to ourselves and put our arms around ourselves instead of waiting for someone else to influence the condition of our mind and happiness.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Routine gives us that anchor, that steadiness of mind that actually makes creativity easier. Imagine if we were in a frenzy to create something all the time! Our minds would be nothing short of yo-yos. Ideas germinate and take time to manifest.

Have you seen a write scribble, then bunch up the papers in frustration and relegate them to the garbage bin, again and again? The mind can become that garbage bin if we don’t watch out. Ideas, thoughts, millions of them might emerge and nothing might come of them.

But when the mind is steady, at least some ideas would see the light of day. Everything needs a steady base to create the required movement.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Knowledge


I don’t believe that anyone can really teach anyone anything as per their own convictions. Unless the mind is open. And the mind opens to listen to another if there is respect for the person teaching . However much the teacher tries, the response has still to come from within each individual.

Learning comes only when and from where it is supposed to come. Did we necessarily learn from the wisdom of our elders ? No. We were busy defying them at that point. Years later, when we arrived at the same point, we realised that our elders HAD told us this but we never listened.

This is the story of most people’s lives. If pure knowledge is sought, it really doesn’t matter if it comes from someone we consider our worst enemy. But we probably will shun anything that comes from that source because we perceive the “enemy”, not the “knowledge”. And thus, out of our prejudice , we tend to remain on the same level as before. We forgo that source of knowledge which was a god given opportunity that came with a test which we did not pass. And this becomes such a habit that we don’t think about it twice. It becomes a normal pattern. How much we stand to lose we cannot even imagine !

As it is said , don’t ask a sage what caste he belongs to. Just take the knowledge he has to impart. By implication, the rest is really none of your business. Is it ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The world is going haywire in search of happiness. Yes, the most elusive goal anyone can have. I am wondering now, is it a realistic goal ? We know that we live in a black and white world. A world therefore, of dualities. The most practical way to live then is to build up a strong coping mechanism for what life unfolds before us. The moral strength and courage to assimilate all experiences . And if this ends up in the feeling of happiness, that would be super and a definite bonus. Can only happiness be a goal then ? In our Puranik tales, we have seen even sages and kings getting angry . Who is considered ” happy” ? The tic, the famous, the educated, the lazy, the restless, the businessman, the home makers, movie stars , professionals, the married, the unmarried ????

In pursuit of happiness, we have to deal with day to day challenges and that is our reality. So, actually, ” don’t worry, be happy” seems to be a bit of a mindless saying. Are we actually forgetting to live in the quest for happiness ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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