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It takes a while for people to believe that we can heal ourselves in many ways. Because we are responsible for making ourselves ill in the first place, we have also been endowed with self healing powers. Some terminal cases have been healed , too. Two cases that I know of with terminal illnesses cured themselves just through a few hours of pranayama per day.

The fact of the matter is , our thoughts and emotions when starting to deeply embed within ourselves are what manifest later. Negative emotions arising out of negative thoughts are the core reason for a gradual

Deterioration in health.

People ask me how any “ normal” person can stop feeling hurt or sad or depressed or angry at some time and in some situations. Sure ! True. But it is one thing to feel it momentarily and another to let it fester. Instead, it is healthier to let it go. Any emotion that is doing harm instead of good cannot be acceptable.

If relationships you have valued get affected, if restlessness and guilt sets in, if peace eludes you and thoughts crowd you each second, you haven’t started walking towards the path of light.

Become aware of the patterns and stereotypes you live with and don’t hesitate in asking for forgiveness, forgiving yourself and erase any memories that are painful, knowing they are just your perceptions. Give the benefit of doubt . And let go , let go. How many times ? Well, all the time. Holding on will harm you. It will bring illnesses you don’t need anytime soon , in fact, not at all.

So, relax. Have a “char minar,” as the saying goes.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We speak of wanting the freedom to make our own choices. Fair enough. And yet, when it comes to our random, often harmful thoughts, we don’t realise that we need to choose the better thoughts and let go of those that will not serve us. And in our hearts, we know this . But a restless mind receives hundreds of thoughts, many of which are useless ones. But we still receive them, and if we are aware, will turn them over in our minds first and examine their worth in our lives. And if not, then better to reject internalising them and send them back into the Universe. Because similar thoughts tend to coagulate into a huge mass of negativity. Whereas, good thoughts must be held on to tightly or they have a tendency to scatter into the atmosphere and disappear.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A certain transparency is very necessary and beneficial in a close relationship. Sharing the important aspects of each others’ lives can increase levels of understanding and compassion and further those bonds.

Why leave people to do guesswork of what lies beneath a certain pattern of behaviour ? Admittedly, we all have and have had issues to deal with. As children, as teenagers and as adults. And this continues from generation to generation with varying degrees and with different life stories. This generalisation itself should make us more compassionate and empathetic to each other. Even more so, when there are closer ties.

It is so simple that I can’t read all the pages of your book of life unless you share them. And only then will understanding deepen.

So, open communication . It makes life easier and very pleasant as well. As I keep repeating, none of us can live like islands. It would completely be against the universal laws of connectivity. So, why not build strong bridges to other souls ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Truth


Truth is often unpalatable. Reality is often unacceptable. But facts don’t change. As you move through life, equations change, just like people playing different characters in a play. And the one thing you cannot afford to do is get wedded to one role. Otherwise, you cannot play another role effectively. Though you always remember the ones you played to the hilt.

In life, therefore, compartmentalization is of prime importance and leaving memories behind, too. We hold onto beautiful memories for dear life and lament on what has changed. But we have to allow for the evolution of everything and everyone. Not everyone will stay with you. Not everyone will care for you the way you want them to. And the opposite is also true.

But you know what? It is ok. There are many pluses in life and gratitude for this is imminent. You let go what doesn’t work and what doesn’t work is what gives you constant pain. What deprives you of your peace and happiness?

How many times do we cut our losses and make peace with ourselves?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Belief systems


Phrases like “generally speaking” and “by and large” should be generally avoided. These are such a severe conditioning that anything out of these lists can be pretty hard to take.

From a young age, our minds are indoctrinated with these completely impractical generalities unwritten norms which don’t work for everyone. There is no “one size fits all” in life. And we have and continue to see this. Writing verse and facing life are two different things. Idealism and reality don’t even come close sometimes. And yet, our belief systems, even our pattern of loving people is often based on a “should” that comes out of a generality.

“I should do this because he is my dad or she is my mom”. Should? Why? Who wrote the rules book? “Should” doesn’t come from the heart. It is inspired by a motive.

…but still, we carry on and end up confusing others and ourselves. Simple answer! Do what comes straight from your heart individually not generally. And if the heart itself is blocked, see a therapist. But don’t teach too many generalities, because they don’t apply in many cases because people are different. Their thought processes ate different. Their responses are different.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Love consistent


If you are able to return love for indifference, you have made it in life. The most difficult thing to do strangers doesn’t really come into this category. The hurt happens only when you face indifference from those who matter to you.

The important thing to know is that, many a time, the indifference you see may be a put on for concealing hurt. You may not know this if you find an accomplished actor opposite you. But even if you miss that, your policy of giving love consistently should make you peaceful and content from your side.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Peaceful life


Life carries with it a lot of role plays. Many relationships if you would care to have them. So many names and tags! By virtue of birth or a choice of people you want to be around.

But I see many are trapped in those relationships Compulsions, not choices. Somewhere along the way, there was love and then there was none. Things change. People change and move on. New ones enter your life. Each one fulfils you in some way, if you don’t hanker for any special considerations.

Life can be simple if you truly let go. One day, we will all leave this world. So much misery; so much disease; so much agony for what?

Simplify your lives the only answer to a peaceful life. Let life seek you out instead of the other way round.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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