Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Archive for the ‘trust’ Category


Being true to ourselves! How many of us can honestly claim this about ourselves? This in current times is the singularly hardest thing to do. Because the consequences of this we humans cannot take.

We are constantly saying and doing things for the wrong reasons either to be accepted. Or not be isolated or for being popular. Could we ever have the courage to be true to ourselves? Yes, it requires lots of courage, to be different. To stand out among a group that encourages herd mentality. To face even dislike, criticism, ostracisation even, if I were to state extremities.

If I feel something, can I say it? If I am being compelled to be someone else, would I refuse? Be ABLE to refuse? Would I risk the wrath of the people who give me my identity?

Yes, it does take a large amount of courage and a large slice of confidence to go it alone, for it sometimes would mean the falling away of many who aren’t able to do the same and would therefore, not feel too good about themselves if they were in your company.

But, be true to yourself anyway.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Advertisements

Read Full Post »

Emotions


It takes a long time, and after you stop being in denial, to start getting in touch with your feelings enough to start work on them. There is a shock absorber phase when the disbelief of say, being treated badly by your loved ones, is painful. And gradually, acceptance sets in, or should set in at least, for your own sake. The healing process can only commence after the acceptance stage. And when you succeed in letting go, you know you are on your way.

Being in touch with your feelings triggers memories and reliving these can provide solutions in the present moment if we have moved on from earlier times. Meditation is the mantra for all times. It is the deepest cleanser of all times.

You tube is full of guided meditations which a beginner should definitely try. Done regularly, they bring in some wonderful changes and enhance your ability to dissipate imbalances in emotions. This has been my personal experience.

You can’t pick and choose your experiences when karma is after you. But you can cleanse karma through your own understanding and determined efforts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


In the good old days, there was a saying, “there is no smoke without fire”. Today, the smoke is as fabricated as the fire. Distorted, even baseless versions of reality are making rounds, being magnified and creating chaos. There may not be an iota of truth but it still becomes a popular story, the more “spicy”, and the better.

Why? For one, people are empty within and like vultures outside. Sorry! These prey on dead bodies. Humans prey on live ones. Fanning fires, twisting facts, igniting conflicts based on caste, creed, religion, stopping at nothing to satisfy greed… this has become the world of the predator, the most dangerous trait among people today. You would never guess from the outside demeanor who was out to destroy you.

Your reputation can be torn into shreds in a minute through “evidence” completely fabricated and you couldn’t defend yourself without proof. Not a modicum of either ethics or remorse. So, what smoke and what fire? Truth went up in smoke and flames long ago.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


It was predicted that a time will come when the sweetness of tongue will win many battles whereas the good, upright and honest will go unnoticed and / or misunderstood. And one, who shouts when the right thing is being pointed out, will also win because it will never suit them to admit that they are wrong.

But this also says a lot about people who make such people win. Who believe them and humiliate the ones that are actually in the right. What would you call them? Easily led away by superficiality? Not enough substance or courage to sift the right from wrong? I guess you have to be a true “kalyug” person and you had better be if you want to survive lies, treachery and core dishonesty.

The upsurge in spiritual search is a result of us having reached the pits. Of us valuing things and shunning people of the exhaustion of trying to prove oneself in a blind, deaf and dumb world. Futile! Completely futile!

If light has to survive in darkness, it has to shine brighter than ever. If goodness has to survive in a polluted world, it has to connect to the source, for looking on earth for a return is looking in the wrong direction and is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


Every phase has its own brand of joy. There is nowhere to go, just on the path of experience. As kids, we were joyful, period. There didn’t have to be a reason. We just were because nothing affected us.

Growing up, joy was when we had the freedom to experience what WE wished to. And depression when we were forced to do what our heart did not want.

Later, joy meant realizing our dreams. Depression when we couldn’t. And later still, it was comfort and a settled family so that we set ourselves free.

So, joy has always been linked with a sense of freedom of spirit which is completely natural.

As Jean Jacques Rousseau said, “man is born free but everywhere, he is in chains”. Joy is emancipation from such bondage. Most of the times, we tie ourselves up.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »

Home of God


I always wondered as a young girl, what being spiritual meant. Everyone had a different understanding. But somewhere, the common denominator was goodness, and dropping the ego. Since our revered guru stayed in our home whenever he was visiting, the pristine atmosphere that prevailed combined with extra strict and protective parents kept me away from the real world. Growing up to the insecurities and complexities of people was hard.

But the training imparted in the early years never quite leaves you, even if it doesn’t work for you at times. But if you stay on a spiritual path, not deviating for anyone, your path becomes an elevated, though lonely one. On the flip side, it becomes possible to help those that struggle; especially when you have been there yourself.

There is no point in getting validation from even family and friends. If you can validate yourself, it should be enough provided you are thinking clearly, simply and honestly. The Divine validation is the only and ultimate. Otherwise, we are just playing roles here of a parent, a child, a friend etc: When this drama, dream ends, so will all the roles that we play today.

Never cry or grieve at being excluded by human beings. Grieve only when you lose your Divine connects. Wake up to the ultimate reality. As someone said, your lot will be in the other world what you have made of this world.

Life is not an indulgence of egos but merging into a higher order and channelizing godliness through you. And this cannot be done unless you get connected to everyone and everything with love. Nothing else works in the home of God.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »


Why is it that quiet people are generally ignored? Just because they don’t indulge in constant chatter even if it is trivial or meaningless, just to make their presence felt? I have also noticed that they are not given credit for much brain either. Almost as if, being quiet is being dumb.

The quality of being judgmental is our birthright, you see. So, how can one let it go? How will we form opinions then? They are generally formed on this very premise and such premises, on others and their lifestyles and personalities.

One should always look beyond the facade. Very often, quiet people have much depth of learning and understanding. It is also a fact that those who elevate spiritually find their minds quietening and so do their speech levels. It is true that they don’t feel the need to talk and comment incessantly on something or another. One should never judge them hastily. They could be thinkers who don’t need validation from external sources.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Read Full Post »

Older Posts »