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All our lives, we are told we must be balanced, balanced and more balanced. While we were kids on the see saw, the fun was exactly the opposite that is one side being up and the other side swinging up in seconds. Then we had the swing on which soaring higher and higher, one hardly knew what balance meant.

We read and preach a lot of theory. But actually, where is the balance? You love like crazy, like there is no tomorrow. You hate, waiting for tomorrow to avenge some deed or another. You eat the food you like until your tummy groans. You see serials like one addicted, forgetting day and night. You are constantly on whatsapp, face book and calls for hours. If you are a golfer, you never heard of the word “balance”.

Today, I am a spoilt child of my parents. Tomorrow, I will want to do exactly what I feel like. Later, I will want much name, fame and money. And so on…. so much for balance! What is that saying that says…

Love as if you never loved before

Laugh as if you will never laugh again

Cry your heart out when it is in pain

Enjoy with every cell in your body….

So much for balance right!

I always think that balance means certain contentment, a satiation level. And this can spell a saturation for which you have to really be ready and would have to have arrived at that point.

How many of us have?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A frequent thought: what do you do when you ask for forgiveness but are not given it? When we are taught forgiveness, we don’t think that someone may not be in a mood to forgive and is holding on to past grudges, memories and even pain. Pointless! But it is not easy to preach at that point and say things like, it was not meant to be etc. That would be disastrous!

But truly, what is forgiveness? You basically let go of your negative reactions with an understanding that there is no need to internalize anything. Each one can let it go. The next step then would be easier. Just shake hands seriously, forgiving is merely not keeping anything in the mind. The alert is sounded only when things are repeated again and again.

People tell me, oh! I forgive easily but I never forget and this sounds ominous because you have not forgiven in such cases sometimes. Not always.

You know, I equate this with water sliding off your back when you shower. Just as water is energy, our thoughts and feelings are also nothing but energy. We need to let all of it slide off us. And there will be perennial peace in our inner world. You might say, aha Easy to talk but hard to do maybe, for some; maybe not so hard for others. You will have to try it out.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If we are afraid of saying what we think is right or fair, we are definitely damaging ourselves in the long run. There is never any end to compromising after that. We have to move along in the same direction, against what we believe in. And we do this to prevent isolation.

Diplomacy, tact and words like that are not meant as compromising in any way. I think we haven’t checked our dictionaries in a long time. Subtle differences elude us. Even bigger ones do.

To be accepted, to be popular, what is the price tag? And to be upright and state your truth, albeit diplomatically, what is the price tag? It is a choice again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We are free spirits but once limited to the bodies given to us, we limit ourselves in major ways. But the body is a vehicle to have a fulfilling life as well. The irony, the apparent contradiction does not sit well on many. It is like sitting in a car and driving instead of walking on your legs. It is an apparent convenience but there is a need for judiciousness and discretion apart from skill and of course, energy petrol.

Going through life needs all of the above. And when these don’t work, the body itself becomes an impediment and the sense of freedom is gone.

This is the whole point of balancing the body, mind and soul.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Arguments


Arguments are only for winning or losing a point of view. It becomes a personal issue to be proven right. Never mind the logicality or authenticity of the point of view.

On the other hand, if you discuss, you may arrive at what is really the right view. The former is ego driven. The latter, based on maturity. Because it is all about what is right.

It would be interesting to observe how many arguments one has had vis a vis how many discussions, nothing like a little introspection here.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is very logical that love has to be its own reward. Because many cannot recognize it and many do not know how to receive it. Many do not want it either because they don’t want the burden of having to return it. Believe it or not!

You know, you can’t give what you don’t have or don’t feel. Even if it is hard to accept, the fact is that each individual journey is a karmic one. If you have close previous karma, you will receive love from those souls. Need not be in the role of a family member from where it is naturally expected.

Once, an astrologer told a friend that the child she had miscarried was a soul who was out for karmic retribution. Subsequently, the same or similar soul was born to her. And she is constantly trying to heal herself and that soul. There was no escape.

So, karmic realities from other lives just have to be experienced and continuously healed. For, there is no blame anywhere. What goes around come around? If we don’t accept this, we can live a life of misery till our last day.

Of course, if all the people realize this, we can free ourselves from that karmic chain. But even if one person heals, that person can get free from karmic bondage.

To believe or not believe this, we need to analyze our relationships and bring in some wisdom thereafter, if our mission is to be happy. Otherwise, we continue with our inevitable cycle of cause and effect. Oscillating like a yoyo between misery and happiness based of the quality of the karmic fallout.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, when you think deeply about the theory of karma, it seems to clash with the theory that the universe is turning in its own way and by its own rules. And everything is like pieces in a kaleidoscope. Each time you move it, the pieces form a brilliant new design, very attractive and beautiful to look at. Some look at the shapes, some at the colors but the whole design is very pleasing.

Life is just like that but for many, it becomes dull, colorless, boring, depressing etc. There is no doubt that if life moves like that, then we are the ones who don’t see the colors. Our vision is defective. We may call it a karmic defect, for past memories cloud the capacity for clear vision.

But who sees or does not see? NOT the body. Not the soul. It is our thoughts, emotions and ego. We are “chidananda roop, shivoham Shivoham.”

So, if there is no thought, there is no emotion and no desire, therefore no ego. That’s when the kaleidoscope makes absolute sense.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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