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If we are afraid of saying what we think is right or fair, we are definitely damaging ourselves in the long run. There is never any end to compromising after that. We have to move along in the same direction, against what we believe in. And we do this to prevent isolation.

Diplomacy, tact and words like that are not meant as compromising in any way. I think we haven’t checked our dictionaries in a long time. Subtle differences elude us. Even bigger ones do.

To be accepted, to be popular, what is the price tag? And to be upright and state your truth, albeit diplomatically, what is the price tag? It is a choice again.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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If life can be described as per my perception of reality, it is a whole lot of phases, of dots that get connected as you look back. There are periods of transition that come in response to the saturation of one phase. Something works for a period of time and then they don’t work too well and this is a time for change. And so the process goes on.

But this is not to say there is no connection. There are links between the phases, or you would not be able to join the dots later in life. As we mature, we can look back and start understanding what happened back there. Not that one should live with guilt and bitterness. Could it have been better? Sure, if YOU knew better! But you didn’t. So, what happened?

Many a time, I hear friends talk with great guilt after the bereavement of a parent, about not doing their best. “I could have done better, contacted a better doctor, and been more vigilant”. Could you really have? And they carry this burden on an unrecognizable persona: THEM. To what end?

This can be only the result of feeling out of control. But then, we ARE out of control with destiny. It unfolds the way it must and we start imagining that we could have changed it. Yes, but did you? Could you? What does this say to you? Even if it had changed the way you wanted, actually, it was meant to. That’s all. Where do you come in? You just try your best. I have to use the cliche “leave it to God”.

We speak of the law of attraction, as if it works for all of us. If it were that easy, every human being would want to attain the earth for eternity. So to say, if everyone could take ladder leaps from the first to the 10th step, why would the ladder have the in between steps at all?

Let’s get real.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Being true to ourselves! How many of us can honestly claim this about ourselves? This in current times is the singularly hardest thing to do. Because the consequences of this we humans cannot take.

We are constantly saying and doing things for the wrong reasons either to be accepted. Or not be isolated or for being popular. Could we ever have the courage to be true to ourselves? Yes, it requires lots of courage, to be different. To stand out among a group that encourages herd mentality. To face even dislike, criticism, ostracisation even, if I were to state extremities.

If I feel something, can I say it? If I am being compelled to be someone else, would I refuse? Be ABLE to refuse? Would I risk the wrath of the people who give me my identity?

Yes, it does take a large amount of courage and a large slice of confidence to go it alone, for it sometimes would mean the falling away of many who aren’t able to do the same and would therefore, not feel too good about themselves if they were in your company.

But, be true to yourself anyway.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Emotions


It takes a long time, and after you stop being in denial, to start getting in touch with your feelings enough to start work on them. There is a shock absorber phase when the disbelief of say, being treated badly by your loved ones, is painful. And gradually, acceptance sets in, or should set in at least, for your own sake. The healing process can only commence after the acceptance stage. And when you succeed in letting go, you know you are on your way.

Being in touch with your feelings triggers memories and reliving these can provide solutions in the present moment if we have moved on from earlier times. Meditation is the mantra for all times. It is the deepest cleanser of all times.

You tube is full of guided meditations which a beginner should definitely try. Done regularly, they bring in some wonderful changes and enhance your ability to dissipate imbalances in emotions. This has been my personal experience.

You can’t pick and choose your experiences when karma is after you. But you can cleanse karma through your own understanding and determined efforts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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In the good old days, there was a saying, “there is no smoke without fire”. Today, the smoke is as fabricated as the fire. Distorted, even baseless versions of reality are making rounds, being magnified and creating chaos. There may not be an iota of truth but it still becomes a popular story, the more “spicy”, and the better.

Why? For one, people are empty within and like vultures outside. Sorry! These prey on dead bodies. Humans prey on live ones. Fanning fires, twisting facts, igniting conflicts based on caste, creed, religion, stopping at nothing to satisfy greed… this has become the world of the predator, the most dangerous trait among people today. You would never guess from the outside demeanor who was out to destroy you.

Your reputation can be torn into shreds in a minute through “evidence” completely fabricated and you couldn’t defend yourself without proof. Not a modicum of either ethics or remorse. So, what smoke and what fire? Truth went up in smoke and flames long ago.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Emotion


Regret is the worst emotion for any of us. Crying over spilt milk, without examining and analysing the how’s and whys. It IS important to do so. The root cause of regret may be very small.

Aren’t there many things we have wanted but unable to get them ? Or achieve them ? Even if I take up a career successfully today, there may be other aspects which I could not nurture due to time constraints and whatever else.

Circumstances, inabilities of different kinds and for different reasons… it’s ok , because one did other things . That is the satisfaction one seeks. It is important to find enjoyment in what we do, not regret what we did not or could not do. The bottom line !

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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