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A certain transparency is very necessary and beneficial in a close relationship. Sharing the important aspects of each others’ lives can increase levels of understanding and compassion and further those bonds.

Why leave people to do guesswork of what lies beneath a certain pattern of behaviour ? Admittedly, we all have and have had issues to deal with. As children, as teenagers and as adults. And this continues from generation to generation with varying degrees and with different life stories. This generalisation itself should make us more compassionate and empathetic to each other. Even more so, when there are closer ties.

It is so simple that I can’t read all the pages of your book of life unless you share them. And only then will understanding deepen.

So, open communication . It makes life easier and very pleasant as well. As I keep repeating, none of us can live like islands. It would completely be against the universal laws of connectivity. So, why not build strong bridges to other souls ?

Surekha Kothari

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Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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One of the most beautiful interpretations of karma was sent to me recently. Being in Hindi, I am posting the English version here.

Translation:

The eyes saw a fruit on a tree. They desired the fruit. But because the eyes could only see, the feet walked to the tree. Now since the feet could not pluck the fruit, the hands went up to pluck it, the mouth ate it and the stomach digested it.

Now, let’s see. The one that saw the fruit couldn’t go. The one that went didn’t pluck. The one that plucked didn’t eat. The one that ate couldn’t keep it because the stomach took over.

When the gardener saw this, he beat up the person with a stick on his back, whereas, the back had not been at fault at all. But when the back became black and blue, the eyes shed the tears because the eyes were the ones that had first spotted the fruit.

This is karma.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Spiritual energy


The faith in Shirdi Sai Baba escalates by the day. Youngsters are being drawn into Sai baba temples and bhajan groups. He is a Mahatma in Kalyug who is a spiritual energy like other elevated souls. Then how come he has become so popular? People claim to have even seen him.

What comes to mind is that there are no heavy rituals around him. No dress codes in his temples, no discrimination of gender, caste, creed and religion. No old baggage of politicization of spirituality.

He is a healer and a saint, a recent one. The new generation understands him in the context of equality of human and devotional rights.

When monopolistic sects try to retain their hold over and attempt to force old, discriminatory belief systems, they don’t realize that it is a matter of time before they will be forced to step aside to allow for a new human order . The agitation for equality in every way can’t be stopped nor its tide stemmed.

Sai baba has been projected as a saint who helps people without any vested interest and in today’s commercial world, this comes as a breath of fresh air. Youngsters want to believe in the path of love and goodness. And they don’t understand the older religions which should have give peace but are steeped in conflict and human destruction.

Sai Baba comes as an anchor and a faith that humans desperately want to peg their spirituality on.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Knowledge


I don’t believe that anyone can really teach anyone anything as per their own convictions. Unless the mind is open. And the mind opens to listen to another if there is respect for the person teaching . However much the teacher tries, the response has still to come from within each individual.

Learning comes only when and from where it is supposed to come. Did we necessarily learn from the wisdom of our elders ? No. We were busy defying them at that point. Years later, when we arrived at the same point, we realised that our elders HAD told us this but we never listened.

This is the story of most people’s lives. If pure knowledge is sought, it really doesn’t matter if it comes from someone we consider our worst enemy. But we probably will shun anything that comes from that source because we perceive the “enemy”, not the “knowledge”. And thus, out of our prejudice , we tend to remain on the same level as before. We forgo that source of knowledge which was a god given opportunity that came with a test which we did not pass. And this becomes such a habit that we don’t think about it twice. It becomes a normal pattern. How much we stand to lose we cannot even imagine !

As it is said , don’t ask a sage what caste he belongs to. Just take the knowledge he has to impart. By implication, the rest is really none of your business. Is it ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I was talking to a friend about how stress can pile up on you because of your vulnerability to some relationships. These people know which buttons to press to make you go a little crazy sometimes some contentious relationships which can’t be severed and can’t be tolerated. It is as if two people are just waiting with their fangs out, ready to pounce on each other. And even if this sounds funny, it is really not, when you are within the situation.

Change this and you can get the ownership of yourself back. Changing this means changing and transforming the feelings that induce and lead to the war like environment. Not allow anyone to take away your choice of response and turn it into an angry or frustrated rejoinder.

We can’t smoulder from within and keep a peaceful front for too long AND retain our health as well. So, either we have to completely get away from such people or decide that they are not getting anywhere with you. That you remain unaffected even amused.

The best way to change your energies is to challenge yourself to become immune and get your control back. And hope no one thinks that this is a minor task and can be accomplished with just a “hey presto! “

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Probability


Sometimes, we reach a deadlock within ourselves. Which way to go? What to do? These are times when probably we don’t want to do a trade off to make choice. We want it all.

I think it would be great at such times, as someone said, to write a letter to your future self. Great idea! To visualize your future self and then make choices, how do I want to be in future? What kind of a person? Accordingly, you make your decisions today. There is less probability of going wrong. And we will learn to take corrective measures more easily.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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