Emotional state

One of the myths going around is that elevated people live with their heads among the clouds, and don’t have their feet on the ground. Also within happy emotions all the time. Well, let’s think again !

We all have emotions and we all have attachments too. It is a different matter that our mind refuses to accept our emotional reactions sometimes and chooses to go into depression. Mainly, we are in the “expectation and disappointment” mode.

What is different about elevated people is , that they ACCEPT their emotional state and live through it. Non acceptance and denial

are both unhealthy. It is a fact that if you push anything away, you have not dealt with it. Because you have not liked it.

A simple point to understand but takes a while to practice. It is not that hard, however, if we train ourselves. It is certainly the wiser thing to do.

Surekha Kothari

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Transition

Our 3D world is full of contradictions because we see separatism everywhere. But actually, it is a manifestation of the feeling of separated ness within us. The fact that we have been endowed with a free-will gives us the freedom to choose. The responsibility therefore, rests with us.

But, working within our low vibrations, we let our prejudices, jealousies and low self esteem dictate our choices.

This was one of the reasons I wrote my book… to say, this will only pull us down. Nothing positive comes out of negative thinking.

The problem of having choices is that if we are not connected with our hearts, somewhere along the way, we will make choices by influencing our intellect with our cloudy and prejudiced minds. The heart is love and minus love, there can be only fear and insecurities.

This situation won’t last long. Those who cannot take a leap from 3D into a 5D unity based world, might actually opt to leave the world.

We have arrived at a stage of rapid transition and must awaken to it.

Surekha Kothari

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Comparisons

Why is it that often, new friendships fade into a kind of indifference after a while whereas old bonds can be revived any time? What is it about childhood friendships?

We travelled with my dad every two years and this moving constantly never really gave us the time to strengthen bonds. Today, when I see my children having such strong bonds with their friends, it is because they were together since school days.

As children, there were no motives attached to friendships.

Not a care in the world about the frills of family name, fame etc.

Comparisons set in only when, as adults, we start calculating and comparing.

But as I always say, everything does have two sides and the good side of changing cities is that you learn to adjust and adapt early in life. And unconsciously, your mental horizons expand as well.

We call ourselves widely travelled when we have indulged in a lot of foreign travel. But I tell people I was a widely travelled kid!

Surekha Kothari

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Attitude

We have a strange society. We try and stay away from controversy but don’t think twice about throwing others into controversy by speaking about them when they are not around to defend themselves. So, often, the issue gets compounded. And people love to hear such stories, as long as they are not about them.

These kinds of attitudes don’t help in creating cohesiveness. Only positive steps in creating bridges will do so. When do we begin the construction?

Surekha Kothari

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Prime Importance

It is really important to know why we do certain things. Why we think in a certain way. Why we react in a particular manner. Is any of this coming under the justification category ? Or is it our lopsided view of the world, people or even ourselves ?

I find there are people who are out to attack you for simple , unintentional and caring ways. They need to look deep down within themselves to see exactly WHAT plagues them. There are conflict areas in everyone’s lives. But to know who to trust and even what to trust is of prime importance.

It is so much easier to preach than to practice. Because the awareness may be only externally oriented.

The ones that go in to their own dark corners will see light sooner than those who block their inner light but continue to work for external value. Of course, value there will be for the world to see. But inner growth ? That comes with inner virtues which are honed painstakingly and from within, ripping apart the thick layers on the mind that create a continuous cloud over the light. But it is for each one of us to realise that. Ironically, this doesn’t come through even “Satsang” . Feeling good momentarily is different from feeling good in the moment and in every moment. And that happens only when we become simple , pure and transparent like glass. Like channels through which God can work.

Surekha Kothari

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Quality of life

Reinventing you frequently! Life doles out all kinds of experiences. If we get stuck like the pin on the record, life becomes difficult and often, unbearable. I always ask my clients why they would compromise on a quality of life that is in their hands completely. You don’t necessarily have to cry your way through life Regrets, Bitterness and Lost opportunities. These are huge for sure. But having said that, what next?

I feel we want to vent and get sympathy but are not prepared to make changes, yes, and often drastic ones. Venting makes you feel better probably but nothing changes.

Examining established patterns is the first step towards changing them. Dragging behind those that don’t work is not a mark of intelligence.

Surekha Kothari

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Difficulties in life

The general complaint one hears about making any inner changes is, “but, it is so difficult “. Well, isn’t everything difficult before it becomes easy? So, what is the problem? That you don’t want to try at all, only because it seems difficult?

Phase 2: WHY is it difficult? This is a tricky one; Calls for a lot of beating about the bush and skirting the question itself; can’t afford to have answers that point at you.

Phase 3: I did try but it didn’t work; Very difficult to measure the quantity / quality of the attempt. Easier to abandon half way than go through what seems like a huge struggle. Specially for the insatiable ego you carry everywhere.

When you speak of difficulties in life, everyone has them. But if you don’t make it a point to work your way through them, the feeling of being stuck will always keep you stuck. And difficult is as difficult thinks it. Whereas, easy is as easy does it. Simple and quite straight forward!

Surekha Kothari

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Path of personal growth

The only worthwhile knowledge which takes you further on the path of personal growth is that you know nothing. And in a way, it is true because the more you profess to know; the more there is to know.

I marvel at any form of arrogance of knowledge and this is precisely the reason. Can I ever say that my word is the last word? When creation constantly changes, expands, creates each moment, I really would be foolish in claiming any such thing. Those that understand this are genuinely grounded and humble.

So, you share what you know and that keeps multiplying. Others tune into your wavelength and you into other frequencies. And thus, the process of new learning and new understanding makes you realize that there is never any end to knowledge. You have to move and gather knowledge as you go along.

Surekha Kothari

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Desire

What often becomes a wound, regret and a cause for depression is the memory of what we aspired for but didn’t get. I would really like to meet one person who got everything, haven’t yet met one.

But neither have I met many who are able to count what they HAVE got. If only we could use a magnifying glass to view our blessings, we could find it in our hearts to feel very foolish at our myopia.

From the smallest toy when we are kids to huge empires when we are adults are on our wish list. Avarice rules us in wanting the world, beyond ambition. And the whole conflict is about being deprived of the few desires in life as compared to the ones achieved and these being the reason to feel happy and blessed.

Surekha Kothari

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Life in KALYUG

 Very long ago, a definition was given about life in KALYUG…

1. KALYUG would be found in the streets of ADHARMA.
2. In DYUTKREEDA: that is, making easy money by foul play and without deserving it through hard work.
3. PAANAM / VYASAN: poisonous consumption, addiction of liquor, drugs and in thoughts, words and deeds.
4. Indulging in gossip
5. Less sleep and prone to several health issues.
6. More anger
7. Less energy and inner happiness.
8. More arrogance and showmanship
9. Less purity of mind and body.
10. Violence in all forms: thoughts, emotions and physical. Prone to enmity and opposition.

Story:

A shishya who lived in his guru’s ashram had a habit of smoking.

Surekha Kothari

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