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Acceptability (or lack of it) is at the root of many issues. I don’t know why we are unable to recognize the fact that we are all different in many ways but that does not matter. In fact, it is so interesting. Imagine if all of us were clones of each other! We would not need mirrors for one.

But jokes apart, why do we feel insecure if the people around us are so different from us? What is the psychology? So many sects have been formed around a few and so much intolerance has seeped into society. So many religions are at war, simply because each one claims to be THE road to Nirvana.

The saga of “I” and “mine” as superior to all others. “I” believe. So, all else is meaningless, is the attitude.

All this is the whole story. In the vast canvas of the Universe, the individual is so miniscule. But, the ego identity encompasses the whole Universe. And this is the major reason why we are unable to give the right to someone to be different. We expect to be accepted. But are unable to accept another because they are different. High time we dropped our double standards.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Weighing scale


Everything in small dozes! Anything excessive upsets the applecart. Too much closeness brings distances. Too much addiction to anything results in ailments. Too much love can create spoilt people around you. Too much self importance can be blind us to reality. Too much criticism can lead to poor self esteem…And so on.

Balance is the key word. The weighing scale is very important…to always keep in mind what imbalance can do…too much of anything is self destructive.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Exciting goal


As children, we used to be told that there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We used to run towards it to catch it. And it holds our fascination even today….like a distant dream, an exciting goal!

How many pots we run after in life, isn’t it? But have you stopped to see how beautiful each color on the rainbow is? And what an enchanting harmony of color the rainbow is?

But we prefer to focus on the pot which ultimately turns out to be just an illusion. And we mistake wood for the trees as we are past masters at doing this anyway.

Life’s journey is also like a rainbow, with various hues and shades, now hidden, now visible. And we are the sky that holds all the colors within, to cherish each one with all their warmth and divinity.

If we were not born, would we have been able to experience the pure, undiluted beauty of God’s creation? Rabindranath Tagore said that this world is so beautiful that he wanted to be born again and again. He cherished the opportunity of creativity and radiated joy through his writings and his music…the journey, riding on the rainbow with no aspirations of ending it and so, no desire to find that pot.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ….a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while…it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Confidence


People who are actually reserved or unsure, maybe quiet or even shy tend to get misunderstood as egoistic or arrogant. It is our limitation of the mind that brands them so. Isn’t it? Being unable to make them open up to us can also be our weakness.

Life takes different turns for different people and not all of them can have a “don’t care” attitude. Some may become introverted, too.

So, next time we see withdrawn people, we should seek them out and try and boost their confidence with our kindness rather than judge them wrongly.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Situations


We don’t often understand that often, we are acting out of a habit that has become a repeated pattern. We don’t know how to change our responses to similar situations. Just think…if someone said something really unpleasant meant to hurt us and we smiled or even laughed, how would it feel? Wouldn’t it free us?

But we won’t do that. We will automatically choose to feel hurt, giving people power over us and unable to make a right choice for ourselves. Sometimes, it is good to surprise ourselves by doing something unusual…it can feel very good.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Defining limits! A very difficult exercise for many. Specially to know when to stop. To know when you are encroaching on someone else’s space. To know when you begin to cross the line and begin to intrude or encroach onto someone else’s life.

Human psychology is complex to say the least. I realize that some very deep rooted insecurities make people cross limits, to grab something they believe will make them feel better. But that is far from what might happen in the long run.

Ultimately, you might succeed in controlling people for a while but once people set limits and demonstrate the need for space, crossing this might prove to be a bad choice.

They say, if you love someone, set them free. But if you end up controlling them, you show you don’t love OR respect them. It only demonstrates a gnawing personal need.

Taking the space that is yours and then, with dignity, moves away. This speaks of a beautiful energy that is in harmony with itself.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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