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Disillusionment is an oft used word, with reference to people, work, educational standards etc. But this feeling of disillusionment only stems from your expectations. If you took everything at face value, would you still be disillusioned? 

I have often written about expectations. If you want to be free and contented, don’t make the mistake of expecting, keeping unrealistic hopes. Never fails to disappoint.

Expletives like, “I am shocked “, “how CAN they” etc…. meaningless, because they CAN and they HAVE. Really! We need to be composed under varied situations.

Don’t expect and be happy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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As much as we need to move along superficially in this world, paradoxically, we do need depth as well. Fine Arts, Creative arts develop a fine and detailed understanding of the emotional aspects of life and people. Dance gives you an understanding of your physical body and postures. Going beyond, both music and dance give insights into our soul. Any classical form is divine.

Once we develop that depth on all levels, physical, emotional and soul levels, then there develops a wholesomeness to us that can create a major bond and understanding with ourselves.

It is vital for generations to develop the creative brain along with academic excellence. We need to harmonize the many facets of us, which we can’t, if we don’t develop them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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If only every human being had that one ingredient for life: a sense of excitement! Like, when we are sitting at the edge of our seats in a thriller movie, just waiting to see what the next scene will bring. If we could translate that into our lives and wait for the next thing to happen!

Of course, there are sad episodes one can’t possibly equate to anywhere close to exciting. There are “Navarasas” or nine types of emotions, all of which are within us. Yet, our attitudes make us. Or break us very easily said than done though.

When life happens, the best of us crumble at times. But we accept that we crumbled. And then the resurrection happens. And we look ahead again at what life brings to us next.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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It is common sense that the boat on the river must ensure that it crosses without developing a leak or allowing the water to enter it. No one in their right minds would deliberately sink it while in it.

But when it comes to humans, we do tend to get destructive enough to forget our own self preservation.

Housing every minor or major negativity makes that one hole in the boat each time. Either we fail to see it happen or we are confident that the little damage is not going to make a dent in our journey. And consequently, hole after hole is made. We often laugh at the one that cautions us. And carry on in the same vein. The slant of the boat is gradual and the tipping point come suddenly and without warning.

We haven’t had enough awareness or wisdom to understand when to stop and plug the leaks. This realization, if it is timely, is enough to begin the plugging process and of course, with humility and intelligent wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We humans are so brilliant at forcing things to happen. Actually, we don’t realize it but we are forcing the hand of God. Everything happens at the right time but patience is not a virtue at the best of times.

Remember the story of the cocoon that was forced open before time for the butterfly to emerge but it resulted only in its destruction.

Everything happens as preordained. The birth of a child, the ripening of fruit on the tree, the rise and set of the sun , the waxing and waning of the moon, a wedding of two people, dawn and dusk… even our destiny unfolding. It is such an egoistic illusion that we do anything.

Forcing something before time upsets the natural balance and the order of things. If we look back, we can remember several such incidents. The only way it works is watch as life unfolds and let it determine the direction of the flow.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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The biggest challenge we humans face is to keep our thoughts clean. Something or the other always comes in the way of pure action because thoughts are not so pure.

The way it works is, your thoughts transfer to your emotions and emotions to decision making followed finally by action. Naturally then, positive thoughts should be preferred for the entire cycle of thoughts to action to be positive, too.

I hear many people say they are very positive among their own groups. It’s also like kids who are well behaved outside but not at home. The cycle of energy breaks this way. You can’t have a half positive and half negative approach. If you are good, you are good, in any situation.

I see a lot of conditional responses from people. And that does not make them wholesome personalities. On the contrary, these are more reactive personalities. If you notice, the day you wake up with a smile, all goes well and you end up in bed with a smile. It is one happy day. But on another day, one small unpleasantness can ruin your whole day. Not at all worth it but it is hard to philosophize and move on at the time.

You can train yourself to give the correct responses with a fair amount of common sense and intelligence.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You know, there is a need for each one of us to seek as much exposure to the various aspects of life as possible because only by observing the lives of others, different situations arising out of who you are and how much you earn and how honed a personality you have ended up becoming….

There are people who live in their own little world who just don’t develop themselves because they are just too myopic or fearful.

You can easily educate yourself on your own. Provided you want to. You just need interest, attitude and time, apart from being like a sponge and imbibing and imbibing more and more, internalizing the information and then making the necessary changes to your thinking and emotions.

We tend to look at people very superficially and tend to shun people who we don’t understand instead of trying to understand them and learning something we don’t know.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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