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Watch your breath ! It takes some training but if you watch your breath or keep your breath within your awareness , whatever else you are doing at that moment, something miraculous happens.

You just never let go of your control . The breath regulates your thoughts, your reactions and your emotions.

If you notice, the pattern of your breath changes with the quality of your emotions. When you are angry, your breath is shallow and fast. In meditation, your breath slows down .

People get confused about what exactly meditation is. Constant breath awareness is nothing short of meditation. There is no need to sit down specially, and close your eyes and try to remove your thoughts. Many people find this frustrating and they drop meditation completely. For these people, I would really recommend watching your breath and experiencing beautiful changes.

Surekha Kothari

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Our generation, which was born around the freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from colonialism.

We were also taught to give more than take. We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we were.

Today, we are gradually beginning to realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion, thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.

It strikes a chord within my generation and sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier generation.

Surekha Kothari

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Everything takes time. Like, you fall ill. You rest, and rest and medicate yourself and one fine day, you are fine the same way when you hurt and keep hurting about the same or similar issues over and over again. As if a raw wound is being touched repeatedly. And you cry, you vent, ask why many times over … but nothing changes. And one day, hey presto, you feel enough is enough. You sit up and start moving on. And you feel well again.

Life will always make us imbalanced because our reactions to it are imbalanced. But to get up, hopefully sooner than later, and move on, is the only solution. People won’t change. Situations may take time to change. But we don’t have to keep wallowing till they do.

Surekha Kothari

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What is the nature of happiness? Someone called it an idea the other day and I was intrigued. It was quite a thought. Is it merely an idea then? So, does one make a difference between being happy and feeling happy? Are they the same thing or not?

If happiness is an idea, then it disappears if and when the idea disappears. If I feel happy, feelings can be transient and that status can therefore, change anytime.

Being happy seems to be a longer lasting concept. The “being” happy is a state of being that is not dependent on external factors. You just ARE happy. No one and nothing was responsible for that state of happiness. Evidently then, it comes from within. And that is the coveted state which all humans search for but in the wrong way.

If happiness were on sale, people would buy it in a heartbeat. But if they were offered just being happy, for no reason, the price would be too heavy to pay because it requires some difficult measures that might spill over to many lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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A Nomadic life


A nomadic life is such a free life in so many ways. They have little opportunity to get attached to places because they never stay long enough . And even the few days are spent mostly amidst nature. In tents. Yes, they seem to be a close knit community and therefore, attached to and protective of their own . Lifestyle diseases elude them at the best of times and worst of times. Happiness is not a special acquisition.

City bred folks have all kinds of issues. For sunlight , they have to specially go into the sunlight. For exercise to the gym. There is little informal meeting and more meeting friends with appointments. What happened to the word “spontaneity”? Not to mention the artifice that seems to set in , often as a part of the survival kit, among other pretensions.

Simple pleasures are simply not sought. Those days are gone when small town life also made frequent inroads into nature . And the five star culture has deprived people of the wonderful experience of living on farms and rustic life. Even farms have five star homes now.

Spoilt, aren’t we ? But more than that , we have lost out on the beauty of being one with nature. I guess, what you have never experienced, you don’t miss.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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We look back with sorrow. We look around with worry. We look up with faith. Wonderful thoughts I read the other day. If you close the chapter of the past and let bygones be bygones, there would be no sorrow. When our minds are engaged with what is happening around us, we are worried. And that is much of the time. But if you have faith, you look up to the Almighty. And then, there is no time or need to look around or look back. That faith is all pervasive. And if you notice, the English language also has no opposite of the word “faith”, because that is the ultimate. So, the opposite of belief is disbelief. Which means belief systems can change but faith? There is nothing beyond.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Emotions


Whatever we might want to do with our past, we certainly do not want to forget the lovely memories. I am one of those, and not the only one, who wants to discover the whereabouts of my school friends through any means. Although I changed 6 schools due to my father’s transferable job, I loved the friends I made in all those schools, the last one being Loreto Convent, Ranchi. Today, I got a call from my batch mate of my final year in school and I am still on a high.

Do I want to change this and “move on” certainly not. I like the fact that we can reconnect with old connections and take off from where we left off all those years ago, difficult to have the same bonds later in life.

But it makes me think that life is to be experienced. Emotions have to be experienced. Of course, all the principles of life and happiness must be observed. But there is joy in experiencing love, bonding, caring and sharing and with these, some not so happy emotions as well. After all, we live in a black and white world where experiencing only the shades of grey in the name of balance might become a tad boring, isn’t it?

So, live life to the fullest as long as you are not doing so by causing someone else pain or grief. And go with your heart.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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There are two major planes of awareness necessary in life. One, that I am a soul, not the body. And if I am in my body consciousness, I am in my ego state. Somewhere, that ego is going to try and create negativity and block the channels of communication with the Divine.

The importance of affirmations has become huge only to cleanse the blocks which lodge within our cells. Keep superimposing the positive over the negative and finally, replace the negative with the positive. It is possible to cleanse the memories which we should not store and which disturb us. Unknowingly, we have abused ourselves in many ways. It is time to become aware, zero in on those grey areas and treat them once and for all.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Why is it that when we have been doing the same drill for 20 years, like climbing the same steps we can actually climb almost blindfolded, that in the 21st year, we fall on the very same staircase ? You get hurt for sure: your ego takes a knock as well. How did you do something so silly? You should have been used to it by now.

Well, folks, maybe, it is all about losing your awareness at that time.

Haven’t we seen again and again that it’s all about awareness in everything, As opposed to the fact that you can never take anything or anyone for granted; constantly to be within your awareness, watching yourself and others? To understand how to respond based on the conditions before you. How best you can act in the moment.

It is so strange that responses from the same people can be different. And so, presuming can land you into troubled waters. That’s why most people just cultivate the art of treading water.

So, lose your awareness and pay for the consequences.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Talent


Conforming is a talent I have not seen much of. It seems people find it difficult to fall in line as it were. You make a rule and you can be sure it will be broken more than once. The mind is unable to remember with consistency. Alternatively, it may not be taken seriously at all. Amazes me sometimes ! How can one repeat the same mistake again and again ?

In school, we had to conform. In certain homes, children have to conform. But as adults, we don’t think it is necessary to conform. In short, it spells a lack of respect for any rules made by others. Too much of individual assertions without understanding the importance of being able to conform when required. Another yardstick of balance. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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