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I am appalled at the state of the medical profession. There are several “good” doctors but goodness does not lie only in being knowledgeable and intelligent. It lies majorly in having humaneness and compassion for the ailing and their families.

Many Indians don’t want to return to India at all due to a lack of this and many Indians will not be treated in any Indian hospital unless they are the “who’s who”, having the doctors running after them and the entire hospital staff standing at their service with folded hands.

The ICU has more infection than anywhere else. I have seen the ICU staff talking on top of their voices, their cellphone ringtones at the maximum volume, irrespective of the serious nature of illnesses of the ICU patients.

Gone are the days when this profession was a noble one and doctors were looked up to with utmost respect. This is one of the most inhuman eras where doctors are doing things like trying to extract their fees from the patients in the ICU lest something should happen to them. For God’s sake! There is a limit to everything!

Mr. Modi and every political figure, more so the Health Minister! What are you going to do about the inhuman and atrocious conditions of all the people and mostly all the hospitals in this countries where death is considered a better option by many suffering beings…better than getting into the clutches of 5 Star hospitals where a minimum billing from a patient takes precedence over the heartrending physical and emotional and mental condition .

Where is the health care that needs so much care?

There is so much “adharma”, so much callousness and so much corruption of the moral fibre in this world that the stage has been set for a while for a complete corrosion of any hope, any joy in the lives of people.

We are also at fault for not raising our voices against this pathetic lack of humanity. If our judicial system had not gone into the hands of vested interests, and suing was made effective, God knows how many people in this profession would have lost their licenses along with their faces, their names and their credibility.

Surekha Kothari


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A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery    of        a            young            boy. 

He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.

On seeing him, the dad yelled: “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of         responsibility?”

The doctor smiled and said: “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital. I came as fast as I could after receiving the call.  And now, I wish you would calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down? What if your son was in this room right now? Would you calm down? If your own son dies now, what will you do?” said the father angrily.

The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Book.”

“From dust we came and to dust we return; blessed be the name of God. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and pray for your son, while we do our best by God’s grace.”

“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy”, murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor came out and said, “Thank God, your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he started running out of the hospital. “If you have any questions, ask the nurse,” he said.

“Why is he so arrogant? He could have waited a few minutes so that I could ask about my son’s surgery”, commented the father when seeing the  nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears streaming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident. He was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

The moral of this story is, never judge anyone, because you never know how their life is and what they are going through.

Another inspiring story. Another learning. How compassionate is this doctor who saves another father’s trauma when he himself is going through a worse trauma! How selfish we become in our grief, without realizing it!

Yes, we have to stop judging people. There is a beautiful couplet written by the famous Urdu poet Ghalib which translates as “When I was not aware of myself, I constantly saw flaws in others. But the day I recognized the flaws within myself, there were so many that I stopped seeing flaws in others completely.”   First, let us start by observing ourselves the way others might see us because our own self image may be distorted. Then, let us stop judging others. We are very quick at labeling and tagging people. The truth is, we need to accept and work on ourselves and leave others to work on themselves. 

The psychology behind judging people is often the feeling of a temporary sense of superiority over those we judge. But, if we analyze this, we will find that we are doing the same thing that we criticize in others. Therefore, we need not necessarily pat ourselves on the back.

The world is like a mirror. What I see in others is already mirrored within me. That is why I should know that when I am judging someone else, I am judging them through my perspectives and belief systems. And so, I have already internalized the qualities I am judging others by. Similarly, when the father in the story accused the doctor of being selfish and in a hurry, he was mirroring his own state of mind at that moment when in fact, HE had become selfish and myopic to save his son’s life.

We do this all the time. Our wants, our needs need to be satisfied on a daily basis. In the story, we can perhaps understand the desperation of the father in a crisis situation. It was an extreme case. But, societies have become so superficial that today, people judge people constantly by what they have, not who they are. 

 It is more worthwhile to be known for philanthropy rather than a Page Three celebrity who may not be known for the qualities of the heart. The doctor in the story is a prime example of the qualities that many unsung heroes are made of. To have an open heart and compassion is a connection to the higher self and to the Divine Energy which is amply demonstrated by the doctor. To emerge beyond ourselves to help someone in dire straits when we are going through a rough patch is a sterling spiritual quality which is not so easy to find.

Many would scoff at this story and show a disbelief that people can actually do what the doctor did. Here again, all I can say is that once again, they are mirroring their own  inability to do so by judging the story as mere fiction in a manner of speaking.

Surekha Kothari



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