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Understanding people! How often do we actually understand what is going on in the lives of people? Or, even attempt to ? Most of the time, we end up reacting to every look, every word….every gesture…

When we are in public, we expect a certain kind of behavior from people. But we forget, as we don our masks, others do, too. But a mask is a mask after all. It can slip with an unexpected trigger. And when the facade drops momentarily and the hurt and pain are revealed, we never stop to think of the reasons why that person may have accidently become transparent. Instead, we react immediately.

Understanding people is nothing short of personal healing. When you attribute a genuine reason to a person’s slipped mask, you will feel a sense of well being for yourself for having been compassionate. For having gone into the depth of a person’s psyche to recognize the soul within. What can be more elevating?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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A beautiful story with a message. There was once a clever businessman who, while crossing a river, fell in. Not knowing how to swim, he started shouting for help. A traveller who was walking along the bridge thought he would help him. So, he bent down and extended his hand, saying “give me your hand”.

The drowning man said, “No, I won’t give you my hand”. The man who was trying to save him understood that he has never developed a habit of giving. So, he told him, “can you at least HOLD my hand?” the man said, “yes”, and was pulled to safety.

If we look at the attitude of both, we understand how important it is to give.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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We all know the saying, “you can take the horse to the water but you can’t make it drink”. I have experienced this as a therapist and have been amazed at this phenomenon. Is it for real that human beings KNOW that they need healing but still persist in building up more reasons for healing through more negative actions. Why is this so? Let me create some awareness on this point.

The first reason is past life karma. If the person has come to experience karmic issues from another life, it is possible that triggers for change may not happen until the experience is completely over. Old karmas need to be lived out. Only with an awareness and acceptance of what IS will come the realization of what CAN BE. In such cases, an individual can make a conscious choice to heal the issue / s.

The second reason may be a conscious resistance to heal that could have occurred due to an energy attachment from the outside which may not want to heal and therefore, does not allow the individual to become aware or seek help. Very often, when we are vulnerable, the resulting weakness may cause our aura to be perforated or broken. At such times, external energies can walk into our aura, disturb it and alter our personality so much that we even start thinking and living like that energy did when it was alive. These may be deceased energies that don’t transit into the light. It could also be other unseen energies.

The third issue may be an inherent suspicion in the healing modalities and process which comes from a space of fear of the unknown and the insecurity of giving the control in the hands of a therapist. The pre condition for healing is intention, faith and consistency.

Another huge reason is living in denial. I have seen many people blocking people from their lives, avoiding places and living in a make believe world because they don’t want to come out of the box they have climbed into, the box that gives them a certain amount of comfort to enable them to live with themselves. Such clients, when they have been cajoled into seeking therapy have often sat before me in sullen silence, not communicating and mostly, avoiding eye contact and looking towards the floor. Needless to say, neither counseling nor therapy has been possible in such cases.

People who want to transform through healing sometimes, in their lack of understanding and knowledge, come to me thinking I have a magic wand which will make everything alright. I want to emphasize the role of taking personal responsibility for healing oneself. Every day, some amount of negative build up happens with most people. Our daily routine must necessarily incorporate cleansing practices like Chakra cleansing, Pranayama and meditation to keep our minds relatively clean and functioning with clarity and compassion.

I absolutely recommend trying to live from your heart and diminish the ego. The heart does not lie. Love and fear are the two main universal energies and it doesn’t take a genius to make a choice between the two.

Surekha Kothari

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