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How do we live through struggle periods? Because there is no one who doesn’t have such phases. In fact, as they say, it always pours, never rains. There is a tendency to get washed away in the sea of emotional and mental negativity. It takes all the courage to keep calm and often, even that is not enough. Believe me, only an indomitable spirit works! … an actual “zid”, a stubbornness to see this phase through as a challenge and at any cost. And surprisingly, such an attitude makes the task so much easier and less painful. I am sure many of you have been there and experienced what I am saying. It is a victory situation every time. So, stay positive and watch events from the outside. Stay blessed.

Surekha Kothari
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Look at us ! We are born with nothing. Then we clutter our lives as we go along. Amass more and more around us…wealth, possessions…at any cost… bigger home, bigger family and so, more space..
And gradually, the nest empties out and we are left with meaningless structures of concrete and mortar, and an illusion of grandeur sans any life in it.
And then we should we start dismantling and decluttering and looking to moving back to our roots…but we don’t. Because by that time the attachment is very intense. And we become more or less slaves to our own possessions. To let go is more or less impossible, unless there is a compulsive trigger.

Surekha Kothari

http://www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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On flight this morning, i was reading an interview by the actor Irfan Khan. He speaks admiringly of the Hollywood punctuality . He says if shooting is slated to begin at 7 am, it begins at 7 am. And if one person is late, hundreds of messages are sent to those involved in the shoot, I imagine, because their time is as important as anyone else”s. And now let us look at our own attitudes ! Is RSVP important if you have been given the courtesy of being invited to a dinner or an event ? No, sirree..how can I tell you from now if I feel like coming or not ? Maybe, there will be a better event coming along ! Or maybe, a more important “contact” may invite me. Or, maybe, i can be on Page 3 if I go to THAT particular event…the list could be endless ! Here, the host and hostess invite first and then make the calls asking if the invited guest is gracing the occasion. Not to mention the amounts of delicacies being prepared !

I am known for plain speak but I speak the sentiments of many who don’t voice this in so many words. I mean, where is all this coming from ? Are we the same Indians, to whom consideration and respect for relationships was second nature ? Have we become so insensetive to others ? Or rather, sensetive to only ourselves ? For, we have developed this major attitude of dishing out but not being able to accept it.

Once, much to my amusement, I got thrown out of a “who is who” list of musicians because I was just unable to attend the musical evening at this couple’s place twice in a row and for very genuine reasons. It can happen to the best of us and we should understand this without taking it personally. But I was told very righteously that they don’t give so many chances to anyone. I am still languishing !

No. Really. Jokes apart, why such massive egos and complexes, guys ? A few years on this earth and the illusion that we are here forever !

Be considerate, sensitive and kind. . Just love and be loved. Care and be cared for. Connect and be connected…it is so simple.

Surekha Kothari

http://www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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As I turn the pages of my book of life, I remember the bitter sweet experiences that make me who I am today and waiting to become a “better” and “better” me as time goes by. I know this will happen with a constant vigil and awareness. The meaning of each extra day in my life has become amplified as I move into the phase of the setting sun, knowing that this is just a perception and life is eternal. I was, am and always will be.

The strange thing is that what I felt with so much intensity in the earlier phases have transformed from emotional baggage to learning. I feel blessed that this has happened. Rancour has no place within me.

I realize that guilt for mistakes made is merely a sign of ignorance because mistakes are only perceptions of past results. Storing guilt, resentment or any emotional baggage connected with the past would be indicative of the fact that I have not moved on. More so, I also may have managed to color my psyche with some amount of pollution of thought and emotion which, in future, will definitely harm me. Is it worth it?

As I hear story after story of my clients lives, I understand why I became a healer. I had some karmic lessons to learn. Agony and pain remain intact until the dawn of awareness and with it, some relief from a super fragile ego that blinds us to the pain of others and focuses on the self only. The perception of “mine” and “thine” implies attachment to people, events and experiences. I don’t relish those feelings anymore because somewhere, deep down, I am left with a sense of loneliness I have brought upon myself with my myopic attitude. So, I must grow and grow further until I peel off every layer of pollution that I don’t need in my life. Thus, I move from darkness into light.

Surekha Kothari          

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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India is suddenly waking up to this word. Accountability in politics has become one of the most burning issues today. But accountability is or shall I say, should be an all pervasive word and in every walk of life. Not only is it at the core of free will, it is also relevant at the macro and micro levels of all existence. It defines freedom as meaningful only in the context of accountability. It is the benchmark of harmony in the hierarchy of relationships. It denotes a system of checks and balances in families and societies, and therefore, logically starting at the micro levels, the individuals. Accountability is a discipline which can sustain peace and prosperity of every unit in a country and ensure a continued and constructive growth of the nation.

Thus, we have a child accountable to parents, family members accountable to each other, individuals to society, societies to their regions, all the regions to each other, the judiciary to its conscience and the people and the government to its people. This doesn’t mean that the creativity of people will be curbed. This merely means that within the framework of what is good and applicable to all, individual growth can and will be ensured.

What is important to note is that accountability incorporates many attitudes automatically.

The first one is acceptance of all, however different they may appear to be, knowing that the soul within has the same source.

The second one is respect for all, conceding that everything and everyone in Creation has a place and is not superfluous.

The third is the knowledge that everything grows only when given space. We are therefore, accountable for the space we are required to give ourselves and others.

The fourth is the accountability of our thoughts, words and actions. All these three should be tempered with love and acceptance, and with respect.

The fifth and as important is the aspect of responsibility which goes hand in hand with commitment: responsibility towards commitment towards the well being of oneself while ensuring that of others.

Today, India is clamoring for the return of this quality of accountability because this has been previously experienced in this great country more than in any other, despite the constant attempts to bring in a state of anarchy inspired by the greed of self seeking groups who have forgotten the days of nationalistic spirit and sacrifices by proud Indian citizens. Their solidarity against so many odds was actually instrumental in giving “Bharat” its freedom. In accountability and responsibility lies freedom for one and all.

 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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