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I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.

Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don’t see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won’t feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.

The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I hope there comes a time in everyone’s life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.

By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.

Why is it that in India, women can be “up there” and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.

I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don’t fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?

The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Sometimes, you feel all your supports caving in. That you are standing in the scorching sun with not a trace of any shade around you, as in the burning sands of a desert. This is pretty much the reality of many who have chronic back problems, especially the lower back. Feeling a total lack of support.

Actually, it is a dark perception that emanates from within the complexity of the mind. We shun and we are shunned. And isolation is the result. More important, there is a cloud over the universal and Divine support which is always there for the asking, but not automatic.

Affirmations make a world of difference. A wonderful affirmation for this condition would be:

The Divine Spirit supports me completely and structures my life.

I am blessed, safe, loved and totally supported. For a minimum of 21 consecutive days without a break.

The mind begins to calm down and reconnects with the Divine energy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Our spiritual evolution takes place slowly, often unobtrusively only because we don’t recognize it at first. Like birth pangs, it comes in periodic convulsions, leaving us empty and exhausted. But regular bouts over a period of time start to withdraw us bit by bit from the world, through what we often call disillusionment, a subtle corrosion of our involvement in it. I have come to the conclusion that this has to ultimately happen to every soul, a kind of saturation point reached, if you will. The tipping point comes after which the real evolution starts, with a gradual detachment, a good way to live out karma.

Like a friend said recently, you don’t have to let the fire that purifies you, singe or burn you, because that is not wisdom. You have to start closing chapters that you write sooner or later. But close you must.

And before you close the final chapter of your life, you owe yourself peace and an eye towards your real home.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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What do I gain or lose is a prime question in relationships today. It often takes a long time for people to understand people, even if they have lived in close proximity. In fact, especially when they have lived in close proximity, whatever the name of the relationship. Either the understanding is lacking or the population around makes minced meat of the equation, In ANY relationship.

So much wear and tear happens within our emotions and expectations that we don’t see a lot of things with clarity. And, ultimately, we start feeling that we are gaining only headaches and depressions and losing our health and peace of mind. And then the inevitable happens…distances.

One of the big challenges is when there is a communication cripple confronting you who is impossible and too complicated to read unless you are a clairvoyant… And YOU are intrinsically a demonstrative and spontaneous person who subsequently , is forced to start closing up and getting all bottled up because their words are hitting a wall and coming back to hit them. It is an unnerving feeling and one that closes channels like nothing else does.

Under no circumstances can shrink or twisting personalities against your will contribute to your well being. So, the cognizance of gains and losses may be replaced by the questions of how meeting points may be arrived at, if both can will this as the course of action, of course. Between the two sides of the distance pole lies the meeting point and the way towards reducing that distance starts with the capturing of the mischievous little devil called ” ego” and blindness towards those who are mischief makers because, after all, you love them, don’t you ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Punishments


Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through each minute until we hear an “operation successful” verdict. It seems as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.

Punishments to kids are designed also for propelling them towards learning. Children often say, “You are so cruel”. We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we do. But they perceive it in a different way.

It is not only to others but on ourselves, too, that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn’t come easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt….apt supporting thoughts. Indulge yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic “knives” . They “bleed” you but ultimately help you and give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Child depression has become a huge issue in the world of today. There were unwanted children, neglected children even earlier in time. However, the sole reason for stress in as young as school children today is the paucity of love, lack of opportunity, devaluation of merit and a desperate run towards. Just to name a few. There is much depression in children, visible and subtle, and it runs deep.

The new and upcoming affluence can demonstrate cluelessness. Some may be struggling to keep abreast of the rapid changes and not being too successful in giving a comprehensive education.

The thumb rule is, we give what we have. Rich parents give material things for the asking. They have money to burn. And thus, their kids burn their lives in it. The educated class ensures the education of their kids. The middle class has motivation and ambition to give their children because they have to and need to teach their kids to become earning citizens. There is not much to fall back on. Lower income groups struggle to give to their children period.

There is so much available out there that much of the depression comes from complete deprivation, the inability to procure what others seem to have. The pressure just to BE is unbelievable.

Somehow, in life, these are the things that matter. You tend to see only that. You seldom focus on those who give or want to give you happiness because they have it and know the value. Ironically, everyone wants it but no one wants to learn about how it can become a part of you. The more they run, the more elusive it becomes.

And when you don’t look for the right ingredients, automatically, you fail to draw the attention of your children to the meaningful achievements. And children learn by example.

Unfortunately, parents very often live through their children. This is yet another big source of depression in children today. Fulfilling the ambition of their parents. Being pushed where they don’t want to be. Bearing burdens they are too young to shoulder. Growing up before they have enjoyed childhood. Also, misusing childhood because they either have not been taught better or are swayed by the blinding light of parties and temptations, failing to see the darkness behind that blinding light…and everything blind needs eyes of wisdom.

We have much work to dispel that darkness within innocent minds and give them love, hope and a direction , not missing out the most important one: the spiritual one : the way back to their real source.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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