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As we progress from phase to phase, we keep changing drastically sometimes. My favorite line used to be, “I will never do this”. Over the years, I have done almost everything I said I would never do. “Never” is a word which now holds a very childish connotation in my book of life.

But on the flip side, do notice that I used “ALMOST everything”. That is vital to study. What gets excluded from the “almost?”

You know, in reverse psychology, if you want someone to do something, tell them not to do it and it will be definitely done. Similarly, what you should exclude from your “almost everything”, only your mind can do for you.

You can be adventurous and want to try it all with the exception of what is not good or healthy for you. And there comes the role of mind control. I call the mind the “x” factor, like in Algebra where we were supposed to discover or arrive at the value of “x”.

Aren’t we all spending our days doing just that?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Common sense


“Common sense is uncommon” is a popular saying. I think good sense is equally uncommon. I mean, just look at us! We search for love but want it on our terms. When we have an issue with someone, we want the other person to come forward in reconciliation. We can prolong a simple misunderstanding indefinitely, being miserable and making another person equally miserable. But each one would rather convert themselves into a bunch of knots rather than forgive, forget and give a loving hug to each other. We are so funny that we will seethe in anger for years on a small issue ( of course, we amplify it to look humongous) but will not call it quits and move on.

Family feuds, sibling rivalry, petty comparisons… you name it and they are rampant and ultimately to what end? To lose valuable relationships and turn away from your own near and dear ones? To refuse to communicate to iron out hurts and misunderstandings? Only human beings can live with so much self promoted negativity, forgetting all the good times shared, the loving moments shared. More often than not, everything boils down to the “I am the one who is right” syndrome.

So, tell me. Isn’t good sense uncommon?

I remember the story of the man who sat on the branch of a tree to cut some wood for fire and was cutting the very branch he was sitting on without the good sense that he would fall and break a few bones. If we look within us, we can see many such broken bones but would we admit that? NO, sure…we still boast of having good sense, you see!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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I want to talk about real people today, people who laugh and cry, love and lie, are honest sometimes and manipulative at other times. People who hurt and who forgive. Ordinary people who can be extraordinary. Intelligent ones who can goof up every now and then, people who can make a mistake and laugh at themselves. People who can bear a lifelong grudge and let go also.

How does one live in a synthetic world of ” best behavior 24•7 ” it would be an exhausting exercise. Smile politely. Talk politely. Keep your voice down just enough. Never say a contradictory word. Always agree to the opinion of others. Just listen … and all will be well apart from the fact that you would in this case, be one of the most boring people one had the “fortune” of knowing.

Give me real people any day. The “dhishoom dhishoom” types. They have an interesting personality at least.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Opinion


We all have an opinion about something. Some of us have an opinion on everything. Healthy debates are absolutely essential. But are these opinions relevant, based on some facts or coming from a space “it is my right to express”. You know, “this is a democracy and I can say what I want”. Sure. We can’t argue with that. Except that the consequences of those opinions are of prime importance.

We all think we are right from where we are looking at life and situations. We look at the same thing with different eyes and a different mind which is wired differently. And obviously, the conclusions we arrive at are also varied.

The only people who desist from an opinion are perhaps the suppressed, depressed or fearful or, maybe those who just don’t want to go there, for falling from grace maybe or for whatever reasons.

Those who are vocal will have plenty to say. Others might follow. Like, in a theatre, there are players and there is an audience.

This world is also pretty much similar. But for every tongue that speaks, there are two ears attached. The tongue is enclosed behind the lips for a reason: to give an opinion when required only or to keep silence. And the ears are outside: to listen carefully and take in what is necessary while throwing out the garbage through the second ear. Including harmful opinions, hate inspiring opinions, wicked opinions, dishonest opinions etc.

What a wonderful vehicle (body) we humans have! And how we abuse it and misuse it! We must contribute by way of opinions. But, the cardinal rule is:

Speak for all humanity.

And it will be heard by the Almighty.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Reliability


There cannot be a better character trait than standing by your family and friends. Sadly, people change relationships like they change their attire. Actually, if you can’t stand by others, the deep seated meaning of this is that somewhere, deep down, you haven’t been able to stand by yourself.

We live by the courage of our convictions, those who don’t keep changing their convictions. And each time that this happens, they look for a change of people around them. The unfortunate part is that when you don’t have a relationship with yourself, you tend to become rather like a rudderless ship. Like a ship passing in the night that never docks.

Life can’t be lived like this, can it? One has to have loyalties and the strength to be with people because you have given them love, even if they sometimes have feet of clay. Don’t we all? You don’t abandon each other for being human, as long as humaneness is retained.

Opportunism is a close trait where loyalties fail. Going the way the wind blows. Reliability on these people would be a grave mistake. You will never know where you stand with them. There is also loyalty among thieves as we know. I am not referring to such loyalty. I speak of the kind of loyalty where you are of support in good times and bad times based on good value systems, because you care. Nothing less…though, could be more.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Comparison


An excerpt from Kangana Ranaut’s interview : ” I think somewhere, women don’t have acceptance for themselves. Women don’t support women, and this matter should be brought to light ( through films). Though they share a bond, I still feel that we don’t support each other the way we should. Like, at the smallest of things, we see girls make fun of girls themselves, our nature and how we look at each other as the inferior sex. So, somewhere, this needs to be deactivated.”

I was mulling over this comment and finding some truth alright. Apart from this being a cut throat world, women have been losing out due to personality issues. Sure, there are many women’s organizations and travel groups but…..

They call it a man’s world because they unite for a cause and their solidarity does often overtake that of women. They also tend to move on faster than women without focusing too much on petty issues. Traditionally, women were not insecure. In the Vedic age, women were strong and wise and lived shoulder to shoulder with the men. But later in history, they came to be called a weaker lot, dependent on the male. More so, after the moghul invasion. And today, when women are coming out of their shell, they will probably have to go through a period of transition till they start supporting each other for a greater cause of connectivity and look for a connection in each other rather than comparison.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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When there is drought, even a few drops of rain have the power to cause excitement. The kindness of people is similar. Every little sincere act inspires gratitude. The absence of genuine kindness is like a drought. So, suddenly, when you come across people who you haven’t had a close connection with but who spontaneously offer help, it makes you can feel those raindrops fall on your heart.

Life has become very clinical, mechanical ….like dance without expression, like music discordant, like a house which is not a home….I guess, I find the soul missing in many around me. And I often feel that souls on the earth must be experiencing much loneliness. Imagine being connected and not realizing it! Being lonely when there really is no need to be so. Deliberately hurting someone , not knowing that it is definitely coming back to you…or often knowing it but still doing it…succors for inviting grief.

Oh! Humans! Get a life!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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