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Performances


When we pronounce people as insecure, it is actually an issue of self esteem. There are immensely talented people who have not gone anywhere, Reason? Low self esteem leading to a diffidence, often all through life. Starting with a lack of award winning “performances” in the eyes of a critical family to self criticism, the journey is very painful. And then they don’t believe those who see their talents and try to encourage them to look beyond their self image.

On the flip side are average but very confident people who get past obstacles with their winning ways and even reach the top. Self esteem was hardly an issue here. But they work hard for recognition to compensate for their lack of natural talent and a limited acquired one. At group gatherings, people stand out in both these cases. It is interesting to watch how some can just take over while the others prefer to keep quiet despite the ability for coherent and intelligent speech. The mix of individual and group energy is a case study I enjoy learning from.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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As we progress from phase to phase, we keep changing drastically sometimes. My favorite line used to be, “I will never do this”. Over the years, I have done almost everything I said I would never do. “Never” is a word which now holds a very childish connotation in my book of life.

But on the flip side, do notice that I used “ALMOST everything”. That is vital to study. What gets excluded from the “almost?”

You know, in reverse psychology, if you want someone to do something, tell them not to do it and it will be definitely done. Similarly, what you should exclude from your “almost everything”, only your mind can do for you.

You can be adventurous and want to try it all with the exception of what is not good or healthy for you. And there comes the role of mind control. I call the mind the “x” factor, like in Algebra where we were supposed to discover or arrive at the value of “x”.

Aren’t we all spending our days doing just that?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Our spiritual evolution takes place slowly, often unobtrusively only because we don’t recognize it at first. Like birth pangs, it comes in periodic convulsions, leaving us empty and exhausted. But regular bouts over a period of time start to withdraw us bit by bit from the world, through what we often call disillusionment, a subtle corrosion of our involvement in it. I have come to the conclusion that this has to ultimately happen to every soul, a kind of saturation point reached, if you will. The tipping point comes after which the real evolution starts, with a gradual detachment, a good way to live out karma.

Like a friend said recently, you don’t have to let the fire that purifies you, singe or burn you, because that is not wisdom. You have to start closing chapters that you write sooner or later. But close you must.

And before you close the final chapter of your life, you owe yourself peace and an eye towards your real home.


Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Blessings


Beautiful lines. We receive so many blessings all through life and all the time. But our eyes are desperately on the locked doors of our own desires which we keep knocking on. Some of those doors have nothing but grief beyond them but we persist. And ironically, those that are open we walk through without evaluating what we leave behind when we carelessly stride through.

This is the human folly that we see within us and around us that triggers waves of unhappiness. The capacity to deepen an experience lies within us. To stand still and breathe in the nectar from the air is ours to do. And the more we breathe in, the deeper the resonance of the depth.

This is exactly why our peers have recommended counting our blessings. Because with each count, the blessing gains strength and more it gains in strength, the deeper is lodges within the psyche and the more it manifests constantly.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Melancholy and loneliness are eternal partners. The former tends to alienate you from others because no one wants an extra share. Most of the people I know have that area within that they battle with. But melancholy people cannot be jolly and laughing either. So, they stand alone. From this situation arises a void, loneliness. Your heart may go out to them but their company can be exhausting.

Such is the situation in families and society today. That tolerance is unavailable. Any amount of mental illnesses is available for the asking.

Circumstantially, if life pushes you into isolation, options can still be found. Either you can get lost in your feeling lonely and unwanted or you can concentrate on learning and creating a new life. Melancholy and depression are hardly ways to live a beautiful if tough life. Giving in and giving up need to be replaced by “I can and I will”.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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