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Punishments


Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through each minute until we hear an “operation successful” verdict. It seems as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.

Punishments to kids are designed also for propelling them towards learning. Children often say, “You are so cruel”. We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we do. But they perceive it in a different way.

It is not only to others but on ourselves, too, that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn’t come easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt….apt supporting thoughts. Indulge yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic “knives” . They “bleed” you but ultimately help you and give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Consideration


Relationships are longer lasting if they are spontaneous. When you keep away, despite closeness, out of too much consideration or an “iffy” attitude, you end up creating a vacuum in the other and often, distances may crop up gradually but surely. I have seen cases where one of the two in a relationship actually drives it. The other sits back for whatever reason. This is just one type which struggles to survive.

I really wonder whether there are too many “equal” relationships in this world. Spontaneous and happy.

Most of my clients struggle with inequality. It is amazing how simple answers aren’t forthcoming or visible at the best of times and people love to wallow in their self created, self pity, aided by complex thinking inspired by a complicated mind.

They say, heart connections are more enduring. But I have seen them transform into controlling tendencies or over sized expectations.

Then again, heart and head connections are advocated. But if one has more heart and the other has more head, it might pose a challenge.

So, what works best is to just be you because life is a challenge for each of us. Often, just trying to manage relationships becomes stressful. So, stop managing (or manipulating) and start living your own life and live it well. Because living someone else’s life is something you can’t do without a lot of confusion and pain. You were not meant to in the first place.

And the good news is, some people will always walk through your life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Energy


More people should go into learning and practicing energy work. Even those who don’t know Reiki symbols or Panic Healing can start by becoming aware of everything within and without as energy. The moment you create the awareness, you start feeling that energy.

Today, we add the popular prefix “e” to every enterprise…like e commerce, e publishing etc. Similarly, we also have “e motion” and “e” go…e for energy in this case.

E motion is simply energy in motion. E go also implies movement.( go) These are energies in motion which we need in life but transmuted as positive energy.

Without feelings and emotions, we would be like dry, barren land. Without ego, we would not know how to balance our inner and outer worlds.

But there is a difference to be made in using emotions for peace and harmony and manifesting the connectivity and oneness aspects as opposed to excessive detrimental emotions causing conflict and war.

Speaking of ego, it accelerates the pace of lessons to be learnt in self control, balancing the male and female aspects of one and speaking universal truths without ego and with humility and understanding.

Understanding energy is extremely enlightening, informative and transformatory. I sincerely advocate an interest in this direction.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Reliability


There cannot be a better character trait than standing by your family and friends. Sadly, people change relationships like they change their attire. Actually, if you can’t stand by others, the deep seated meaning of this is that somewhere, deep down, you haven’t been able to stand by yourself.

We live by the courage of our convictions, those who don’t keep changing their convictions. And each time that this happens, they look for a change of people around them. The unfortunate part is that when you don’t have a relationship with yourself, you tend to become rather like a rudderless ship. Like a ship passing in the night that never docks.

Life can’t be lived like this, can it? One has to have loyalties and the strength to be with people because you have given them love, even if they sometimes have feet of clay. Don’t we all? You don’t abandon each other for being human, as long as humaneness is retained.

Opportunism is a close trait where loyalties fail. Going the way the wind blows. Reliability on these people would be a grave mistake. You will never know where you stand with them. There is also loyalty among thieves as we know. I am not referring to such loyalty. I speak of the kind of loyalty where you are of support in good times and bad times based on good value systems, because you care. Nothing less…though, could be more.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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You know what the greatest sense of freedom is? When people actually stop affecting you! It is an exhilarating feeling. We store and store and store all kinds of feelings based on all kinds of reactions. And what we really end up doing is tying ourselves up in so many knots…and we seethe and resent and god knows what!! Actually, the quality of our life takes a dip.

Imagine then, if we just stop and take a deep breath and just let go all that we are holding onto!! Wow! Instant freedom! I can hear voices saying, “but it is not so easy”. And I say, yes. But it is not so difficult either if you make up your mind.

Stonewalling reactions should be taught from school because we do it so spontaneously! Without thinking.

Once you stop letting yourself get affected, you can smile your way through any situation. And it makes you feel a sense of release and a sense of being in control of your life.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Child depression has become a huge issue in the world of today. There were unwanted children, neglected children even earlier in time. However, the sole reason for stress in as young as school children today is the paucity of love, lack of opportunity, devaluation of merit and a desperate run towards. Just to name a few. There is much depression in children, visible and subtle, and it runs deep.

The new and upcoming affluence can demonstrate cluelessness. Some may be struggling to keep abreast of the rapid changes and not being too successful in giving a comprehensive education.

The thumb rule is, we give what we have. Rich parents give material things for the asking. They have money to burn. And thus, their kids burn their lives in it. The educated class ensures the education of their kids. The middle class has motivation and ambition to give their children because they have to and need to teach their kids to become earning citizens. There is not much to fall back on. Lower income groups struggle to give to their children period.

There is so much available out there that much of the depression comes from complete deprivation, the inability to procure what others seem to have. The pressure just to BE is unbelievable.

Somehow, in life, these are the things that matter. You tend to see only that. You seldom focus on those who give or want to give you happiness because they have it and know the value. Ironically, everyone wants it but no one wants to learn about how it can become a part of you. The more they run, the more elusive it becomes.

And when you don’t look for the right ingredients, automatically, you fail to draw the attention of your children to the meaningful achievements. And children learn by example.

Unfortunately, parents very often live through their children. This is yet another big source of depression in children today. Fulfilling the ambition of their parents. Being pushed where they don’t want to be. Bearing burdens they are too young to shoulder. Growing up before they have enjoyed childhood. Also, misusing childhood because they either have not been taught better or are swayed by the blinding light of parties and temptations, failing to see the darkness behind that blinding light…and everything blind needs eyes of wisdom.

We have much work to dispel that darkness within innocent minds and give them love, hope and a direction , not missing out the most important one: the spiritual one : the way back to their real source.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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With social evils like “sati” abolished, women got their right to life. But that was just one aspect. We still have a long way to go. Can you notice how the genuine moral support of the government today has brought many maladies like triple talaq, rape etc to a point of revolt, discussion and solution? Women who lived in fear are beginning to come out and raise their voices against the injustices meted out to them. All because finally, the right issues are being aired and laws are being passed to arrest the further growth of the “jungle raj”.

The light coming in to the world of men is being blocked desperately by the dark souls of humans but this time, they may not succeed in spreading further darkness. I am hopeful!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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